Anxiety & Performance
Mismanaged anxiety can get in the way of you achieving your goals. It can be debilitating and encourage unhelpful behaviours. Managed well it can help you to achieve incredible things.
“Anxiety can be helpful. It can help us to achieve in ways we never thought possible.”
Unfortunately left unchecked it can also affect how we think about ourselves and lead to unhelpful behaviours which can over time erode our self-esteem and confidence.
Continual achievement, while it is often rewarded, can lead to exhaustion and an ever-present sense of foreboding. While it may have felt good to feel like a ‘winner’ early on, that feeling can fade and be replaced by unrelenting standards to ensure we continue to achieve whether that’s socially, career-wise or in relationships.
Clients who work with me on their relationship with anxiety report they no longer fear experiencing anxiety. They recognise how and when it can help them and when it’s getting in the way. Clients report they feel confident and more in touch with their own needs and are less afraid of the unknown. They are able to listen to the wisdom anxiety has to offer and feel content about what they achieve.
“I started working with Martine when I was highly anxious and started to have panic attacks. I had resigned from my management role in hospitality to transition to the role of accountant. The change was difficult for me, I was overwhelmed and I had no local family support. I had lost my self-confidence and was struggling with time management. I felt very confused. Working with Martine I was able to find myself again. Martine helped me to find clarity and calm within myself. I am much more confident with my decisions now. Life is much easier. Even though English is my second language she made me feel super comfortable and safe from the beginning. She understood me perfectly. I like the way she uses visual images to explain things which is very helpful for me. I am better at managing my priorities and I feel much calmer. I definitely recommend Martine for anyone who suffers from anxiety or career indecision.”
“I was looking for a proactive and positive approach to my situation. I wondered whether we would get on as I didn’t totally get on with my previous therapist and as a result I felt I didn’t move forward. Previous therapists I have seen have been excessively preoccupied with the past, with little or no attention to the present and future. Since working with Martine I have become stronger and more confident in my ability to look after myself emotionally and see through the consequences of my decisions. I recognised my need and desire to live a more settled life, and to reduce the stress I put on myself, and have made appropriate changes. I have progressed in my career. I have identified what I’m looking for in a romantic relationship, and identified tendencies to ‘overextend’ myself (over-adapt, over-compromise). I have found the courage to be more honest and authentic. I have cast off some relationships that were draining my energy, without reward, and have strengthened some of my better relationships with increasingly honest and direct communication. I thoroughly enjoy working with Martine, I actually look forward to our sessions. She is non-judgmental, no matter how wacky my interests and adventures. I feel she appreciates and supports ME, identifying and helping me to implement what is best FOR ME specifically, as the unique individual I am, even when I am unconventional. She doesn’t project generic goals or ideals for me to aspire to. Martine helps me to see through the mess of current events and distractions, and see the bigger picture. I would recommend working with Martine to anyone who wants to shift gears and move forwards through blocks in their life, to upgrade their reality according to their specific desires and goals. It takes time to get to know each other, figure out what you need and implement it, and there will be resistances and steps backwards, so it’s not necessarily a quick process. Martine is very patient, even when the way forward is not obvious, she hangs on in there with you!”